If you look back in your own life a few years ago, can you say something that you didn't like before, but now you do?
Perhaps everyone has already experienced in their own taste that it can change. I'm thinking that, for example, as a child I hated (yes, I didn't just simply dislike) raisins and this disgust got to the point where I basically rejected all foods with raisins. Even if it would have been delicious anyway, that extra ingredient made it completely impossible for me to eat it. Then I became a mother. Maybe that's what changed me. I will eat the raisins today. I'm not saying I love it, but I don't have that immeasurable disgust in me either. Not because I didn't want to influence my little girl's taste with my own taste. Maybe he will like raisins and not change it because of me. So it was. Loves. Rather, I adjusted to him and we eat together.
Well, we can also show a big change in our happiness in our private life. As little girls, we imagine the rest of our lives as happy wives and mothers who are successful in all areas and can move freely in everything they do. Then we grow up and produce something completely different from what we once imagined. We can experience our dreams in traces, but they may disappear as easily as they were formed.
We hope to own the world in our twenties. Life, career, travel, knowledge acquisition, development are ahead of us, but before we are thirty, we settle down and start a family. Over thirty and alone, we don't get so scared because we live in such a modern world and nothing is late at all. We wait, we search, but the prince does not come. The bar is still high, about as high as it was when we were little girls. We may be willing to give up the prince's white horse, but not the prince's appearance.
Leaving the 30 board, we already have some fear. Especially if in our environment, or in the family, people of a similar age to us already live in happy families and are raising several children. Then comes the sudden feeling of "oh my god, I don't even have a relationship". But we still cling strongly to our ideas of what the ideal man is like for us. Relationships can come and go, but if we can't show a stable one in our thirties, then we can waver in our own values. Having learned the lessons, we try to move on, but it is still more difficult to start dating and dating again.
If we don't have a permanent relationship even in our mid-thirties, we may already be giving up on our needs, but we are still looking for and waiting for someone close to our dream image.
In the meantime, we can have relationships, but if we don't really find ourselves in any of them, then in our forties we tend to compromise. Appearances are no longer necessarily the only thing that matters. Maybe it wasn't like that when you were young, but when you've matured, armed with experience and a lot of crying and thereby strengthened, maybe humor and the number and quality of joint conversations matter a lot more. Instead of or in addition to charm, it is much more important to find a real partner in our relationship.
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