With time, memories become beautiful, but relationships that are not maintained tend to grow cold and can end badly after a nice start.
What was once so overwhelming and glowing with desire, but even the air, where has it gone? Still, couples can stay together despite the fact that they essentially live their lives separately, they just do it all under one roof. Many kinds of "generators" can keep cold relationships together: children, wealth, boredom, avoiding uncertainty, familiarity, honor.
There are signs that the relationship is beginning to cool down and pass away. That doesn't mean you can't bring back what was once so self-evident. It's good if we recognize these signs and maybe we can do something in time to prevent the relationship from ending definitively.
It's been so long since you looked at each other like no one else existed. You thought each other was perfect, and the passion between you was glowing. After X years and children, all this may have been tamed, but it by no means means that you no longer see in each other who you were at the very beginning. If this is still the case, i.e. the passion is not there (even if it is a little more solid), then this is one of the signs that the relationship is running idle.
If there is no passion and fire, then physical pleasures do not mean the same thing. If you experience this, it's time to do something before your partner starts looking for something else that he can't get at home.
Yes, during the many years you have spent together, you already know each other like no one else. But it can become empty and almost live side by side. And this is a very big problem. If a relationship is already here, it is inevitable that the parties feel that their life is less shared and "we" can become "me" and "you". This also means that the responsibility will increasingly apply to only one person.
We are not saying that divorce is the solution to all relationship problems, but there are times when you have to let each other go. Those who stay in a dysfunctional relationship or marriage so that the children can be in the family, well, that's not the best teaching. Because children growing up in a bad family milieu are by no means brought up in a more ideal environment than separated families who love their children and live separately and in peace.
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