When we say teenager, what comes to mind? Your own rebellion when you went after your parents and the desperate search you went through? Maybe you don't have any bad experiences? If you belong to the latter category, you are really lucky.
Adolescence, however, is by no means only a problem area affecting the teenager concerned. Although young people are not only full of hormones, but also of questions to which they are trying to find and answer. Since the young person lives in the family, this mood change affects the people around him as well. A necessary evil of being a teenager. It is a kind of transition into adulthood. And indeed, in such cases it already results in a serious offense - in fact, it causes some of the quarrels - if the young person is treated as a child by the parents. Frustration can take over the teenager and his immediate environment.
They are used to saying that we should hug and kiss our children until they let us, because there will come a time when all this becomes not only cute, but a downright habit. They avoid close contact with parents and siblings not only in public, but also at home. He requires more and more time to be alone, and he lets us know this quite understandably by locking himself in his room. Where will the child who was before go?
He's there, he's just changing. He feels the weight of growing up and since you have Kavalkad in his heart as well as in his head, he really wants help, understanding and conversation. Even when you seem to be at war with everything and everyone.
So that he doesn't feel the imposition of our own will, but still feels the care that he longs for anyway, let's ask him what would be the joint program that would bring him joy? As soon as the answer is found and can be fulfilled, it opens another way to the heart of the rebellious and seemingly unmanageable teenager. And when we're together, we can talk. By talking, we don't mean that we can finally pinch him on the neck and tell him everything he's not doing right. Let's focus more on what the problem is that concerns him.
Being a teenager is not easy. Although children feel like adults at this time, they actually have neither experience nor practice in relation to the real world. Yet they don't want to be constantly educated, and we don't want to spend time criticizing them in their dress, style, or behavior. This would surely only add fuel to the fire. We know very well that when we look back at our teenage photos, we see ourselves as an object of ridicule. In other words, the fad will pass even among teenagers. If not, it's probably that important in your life.
If we hold the hands of teenagers, they feel the care, but we do not settle on them, then we can help them and ourselves through this critical period.
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