Raising children is also a serious and sometimes conflict-generating parental activity, during which the adults stick to the rules and the expectations they set and would expect the children to fully fulfill this.
Of course, the rules are meant to be broken, and the children regularly practice this. Day after day. Dancing on our nerves. However, children are not generally a small group of people who have no need for order and cleanliness, but there are so many things in their immediate environment waiting to be discovered and learned that they are not interested in order in the least. Well, in general: whose order is it?
This reminds me of my grandmother, to whom the boys could turn for advice on how to methodically make a cup and leave it in the room. We clean together, he cleans alone, I point out the clothes and garbage lying on the floor and if he picks up a quarter of them from the floor, then I can count it as a strong success. It's as if he doesn't see what's wrong with sanasei. And then, of course, the argument goes, because I can't stand the fact that he can live in such a mess, and he tells me that his order is not the same as mine.
When I'm already in doubt about what will happen to him, because he doesn't see this at home, then help comes to me:
Research has shown that messy children are usually creative, and if that's the case, breaking the rules is one of them. Aha, the aha-experience has come: so my 13-year-old daughter is creative?!
I have to accept that we see the world differently, which can be caused by age differences, lived experiences, what we learned, what we brought from home, external influences, and our personality. Not only is there nothing wrong with that, I'm downright happy that I have a brave, edgy, lively little girl, just order... The pivotal point. I'm afraid that this kind of sloppiness will turn out to be a disadvantage.
However, based on experiments conducted at the University of Minnesota, physical order testifies to generosity, correct choices and adherence to rules, but messy people are creative.
Let's just think about it with common sense. If everyone always follows the rules (those defined by others), the world will never develop, because we don't experiment, we don't dare/want to satisfy our curiosity if it goes beyond the rules.
The main activity of children is play. although they can occupy themselves without toys, there are many toys in every children's room. In fact, it can be said that the games are spilling out of the rooms. However, research also proved that sometimes less is more. In other words, if we put fewer (4-5) toys in front of the little one, they fiddle with them one by one much longer than if we bombard them with multiples of this number. So even a few games help creativity.
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