Understand your child's feelings.

The fetuses already feel in the womb. And after their birth, they intensify and become apparent. Emotions are important to us, but more importantly, we can understand and validate them. Children also express their feelings, but understanding them requires parents to listen to them as well. This can be quite a difficult task, yet we need to do it. It’s also great as an adult to have someone to listen to who we can tell our feelings to. Kids want the same.

If we understand how children feel, they also understand why they behave that way and the solution is easier to find. However, understanding requires that…

…hearing

By listening to the children, we express that we pay attention to them, care what happens to them. Being able to tell us how they feel strengthens the connection between the baby and the parent. Many details can be revealed in this way and some points can even be clarified.

…clarification

If the kid can tell us what he is feeling and can also articulate what triggered it, we will get closer to the solution. We have to misunderstand what the children are saying or feeling. Conversation, audition, and questions can clarify a child’s emotions.

…recognition

Even as an adult, it’s hard to deal with our emotions, so just think about the fact that kids are at the very beginning of this journey. Don’t expect them to react most perfectly right away, because we don’t always go either. Recognize that what you feel is really real, it still seems exaggerated, so try to avoid any behavior that might suggest that what your child is feeling is not legitimate.

…empathy

Just think about the situation of the child. Let’s take a look at what happened and try to identify with it. Do not take it lightly or bagatellize it. Those emotions are real. We motivate the toddler to talk about what happened.

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