It doesn't matter whether you are leaving or they left you, if it was a painful step that was difficult for you to overcome. Are you ready to move on?
Do you really feel that you have processed your past? Do you think that you have reassessed all the negatives and positives of the previous relationship and received an answer to what happened and why? And the answer only confirmed even more that breaking up was the best way to go?
If the answer to each question is YES, it does not even mean that you are able to move on, i.e. to a new relationship.
A breakup takes its toll on you. In many cases, pain, hurt, unspoken words torment us so much that the wounds take months or even years to heal. Other times, it is more the fear of loneliness that drives us to look for someone by our side. A relationship at all costs is a bad tactic. In such cases, a person is not selective, he only wants to know who is nice to him so that he can hold on to him. Over time, as the pain subsides and the resulting distortion begins to clear, we realize: what am I looking for besides this person?
Time is needed after a breakup. The process of mourning must be experienced in the same way as when a loved one leaves. This is also a big and significant closing of a phase of our lives. The greater the love, the longer the relationship, the more serious this grieving process can be. It is best to live and experience it. Because as much as we want to hide it, feelings will come to the surface one day, and not at the wrong time.
Go deeper into yourself, you can even withdraw a little more consciously from others for a short time in order to experience this process deeply.
And after grief comes regeneration. Allow yourself what you want during this period. Enjoy being free. Be open and optimistic about the possibilities. Don't focus on finding a partner. Maybe you don't want it even a little, because you really enjoy your freedom, the new beginning, but it's possible that you already want someone. Intentionally, always and in everyone, don't look for your next partner, but at the same time, be open precisely because you never know when love will find you.
Do it so that you have time for yourself. Don't try to be in company at all costs, just so you don't feel alone. Spending time alone can be beneficial. You can learn from the experiences of the past, thereby gaining greater self-knowledge and this can shed new light on your future life.
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